MAIN RESPONSIBILITIES OF SUBMISSIONS

Perform, Serve, Be Managed, Delight

The main meaning of interaction in a pair of Dominant- submissive is the maximum possible transfer of control over oneself and the situation to the Dominant. The essence of the practice lies precisely in the voluntary consent of the Saba to the transfer of power and humble acceptance of the consequences in the form of the will of the Dominant. The whole system of relationships is built on this.

The essence of the submissive role

Thanks to thematic publications and videos, built on the basis of the stereotypical idea of ​​BDSM, some candidates for submissive may have an incorrect idea of ​​the Dominant role. They imagine that they will become the object of the Dominant, whose actions will be aimed at delivering pleasure to the saba. When faced with reality, they can experience at least frustration at breaking the template.

In the first setup session, the bottom meets the Top, being naked, kneeling. However, the very first contact can reveal a discrepancy in the vision of the situation and expectations. Elementary question from Top "Why are you here?" will become a marker for the needs of the bottom.

The correct answer would be:

  • "To obey";

  • "To serve your Master"

The lower one must clearly understand: she is here for the Master, and not vice versa. A large number of candidates for subs do not understand the difference; in their view, the Dominant is a means of satisfying their erotic fantasies. However, the truth is this: The Dominant doesn't need a submissive.

If the Dominant sees that the answers of the candidate are different, they show egoism and ignorance, it is worthwhile to conduct a conversation first.

Incorrect answers cannot be ignored, otherwise incorrect attitudes may develop in the ward's brain - for example, that she is doing a favor to the Master by playing her role. Of course, there are other signals indicating that a couple may not take place, they also need to be paid attention to.

If the Top is so interested in the bottom that he ignores the signals and decides to play, it is worth doubting his role.

The True Dominant is ready to stop the session at any time without regret. One can proceed to the session only after a sincere correct answer.

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The value of serving the Dominant in BDSM

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If the lower one answered correctly to the first survey: "I am here to obey and serve," do not rush, ask the control question: "What does it mean to you to obey and serve?"

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Not all people are distinguished by the skills of self-reflection; the question can easily be confused. The candidate must independently voice her thoughts on this matter. The top one will receive information about the needs, motivation of the future sub. Some dominants are recognized: watching the submissive's internal throwing is a separate kind of pleasure.

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Components of the Submissive Role

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Having "tormented" the lower one with the thought process, one should clearly articulate its main tasks. The lower one must realize them, accept them as an imperative.

  • take control;

  • follow orders;

  • please your Master

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It is necessary for the candidate to repeat the list aloud, to confirm that she is ready to fulfill each of the points unquestioningly. If the Top hears the sincerity in the affirmative answers of the bottom and sees confidence in her actions, then there is a very great chance to turn a simple bottom into an excellent sub, which means you can proceed to the session.

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Dominant service

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This includes all tasks for the submissive to increase the level of comfort for the Master. This is a service when the saba takes over the household chores. In this case, the agreement may imply the establishment of acceptable limits. Either the submissive serves the Master only during sessions, or on an ongoing basis.

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Household duties can include laundry, cleaning, cooking, grocery shopping. During the session, various instructions can be issued, for example: bring the device, eliminate the draft, turn down the volume.

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It is important that the sub will follow orders on their own. An exception may be a complete lack of competence or a state of health. In other cases, any external participation is completely excluded.

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For female submissives, this form of service is more familiar from the point of view of everyday skills, however, the wrong attitude can work here. You can't let her take on the role of mom. The dominant is not a child, he does not need care. Saba must be aware: her role is solely in freeing the Master from everyday, routine matters.

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Service boundaries for the Dominant

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The range of services provided by the subs can be very wide, up to the resolution of the Dominant's financial costs - expensive gifts, paying bills, sponsoring. While accepting the service of the lower one, the Dominant must not forget simple and proven truths:

  • saba is not always selfless, she also wants to satisfy her needs at the expense of the Dominant;

  • you can't become addicted to your subwoofer

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Literate Dominants will never accept gifts from sub, with whom they do not plan to build interaction on a long-term basis. Some submissives may give gifts to the Dominant, keeping silent and denying the presence of accompanying motives. However, there is always a subtext. Do not accept valuable presentations from the bottom ones if you do not plan to interact with them seriously.

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Submissives are aware of this rule and sometimes show miracles of resourcefulness. What is the example of a sub, who, deciding to help the Boss solve financial problems, sent him cash in an anonymous letter. The dominant was relieved of the problem, and of the need to solve the question "can I take this money?" A very elegant solution.

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Dangers of Subs Dependency

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It's great when there is someone who serves you, worships, does all the work for you and tries to please any whim. However, there is a great danger in this approach - the sub can easily spoil its Master, bringing him to a state of laziness and emotional decline. The dominant can easily begin to degrade if he allows the lower one to take away all responsibilities.

Saba frees you from routine, but you are obliged to spend the received time rationally, including on your own development.

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Accepting gifts, care, the Master should not become addicted. The submissive pays the bills - fine, but you have to be ready to do it yourself at any time. The dominant must take care of his own resources.

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Domina often falls into such a trap. Shifting responsibilities on the male subwoofer in terms of content, in the event of separation, they find themselves without a source of finance. Male submissives know how to make money, are wealthy enough to please their Domina with gifts. They are also calculating, and in an attempt to tie Domina to themselves, they can make her dependent on sponsorship. Manipulations can be covert or overt, an absolutely altruistic and unselfish submissive is an exception to the rule.

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There are lower ones providing services to the Tops in the real world. Hairdresser, carpenter, cook, auto mechanic - the more professional the skills of the bottom, the less chances he will be left without a Dominant. The sub-auto mechanic will always be with Domina. The freer the Dominant is from routine duties, the more time he can devote to assignments and training his sub. However, it is always worth remembering that the Dominant should not become dependent on the submissive.

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Obligation to follow orders

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When the subordinate agrees to the transfer of control, it undertakes to listen and obey the orders of the Top. Before agreeing to these responsibilities, the bottom should honestly decide: is it ready to carry out the order of this particular Top? If she honestly answers herself "yes", there is no problem. But if you have to overcome internal resistance, then you should finish everything right now. Thematic relations are very deep and require increased responsibility for them both from the position of the Dominant and from the position of the submissive. Be honest with your partner and even more so with yourself.

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After receiving consent to serve, the Master has the right to expect unquestioning and timely execution of orders. If latent resistance begins on the submissive's side, you need to find out the reason. Sometimes the subs begin to test the Dominant for "strength", or they are not ready to obey seriously. Remember, submissives can easily try to manipulate the Master. Women can agree to the duties of a saba at the beginning of a relationship, hoping to fix the Dominant for themselves, making it "normal".

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In this regard, it is customary in the Thematic Society to give a potential saba a probationary period, during which each of the participants faithfully fulfills his role. At the end of this period, both make a decision to continue or break off the relationship. But unlike the "official" Thematic Relations, such a break is not final, and the partners can continue to get acquainted.

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The value of the relationship with the Dominant and the boundaries of what is permitted

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It is the orders that go against the wishes of the submissive that reveal his true degree of attachment to the Dominant. A very common phenomenon: submissives perform duties exactly as long as they are familiar and enjoyable.

To demand from a sub to obey an order that she does not like is to determine the degree of loyalty to you.

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The only excuse for disobedience is the risk of permanent damage or injury to the saba.

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Appreciating her Dominant, the submissive will execute the order gracefully and promptly. For the pleasure of the Master, the subs are able to withstand many things, in particular, extreme loads. The owner must soberly assess the reasonableness of desires and requirements for the submissive.

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If the submissive is ready, despite emotions, to experience humiliation, fear, pain, disgust - this is a demonstration of the seriousness of the intention to serve a particular Dominant. Submissives secretly pride themselves on their endurance for the Master's sake. An ethical Dominant will never force his pet to go through such serious trials, if it is not required by good reason. The dominant has no right to behave like a child and indulge his pride in this way.

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Captured Submissive Scenario

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As a "simulator" for unquestioning execution of orders, you can conduct a session of "capture": the Dominant holds the saba against her will, persuading him to obey. This option is ideal for beginners, those who have not yet fully realized their submissiveness.

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Before the session, it is important to remember that the "captive" can offer serious resistance, up to broken furniture. Such games are exciting and therefore dangerous, both participants are subject to emotions that can go beyond what is permissible. The "taming of the shrew" should be approached deliberately. "Taking prisoner" is often combined with biased interrogation. Both partners must clearly understand when to stop, trust must be mutual.

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Taking control

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This rule applies directly to the actions of the Dominant in relation to the submissive. The clause implies infliction of pain, unless otherwise agreed. It is also the responsibility of the saba - to experience a rather tangible painful effect, there are no discounts on gender and age. An exception is the medical risk of exceeding the strength of the stimulus.

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All restrictions for the actions of the Dominant are negotiated in advance and clearly recorded in the mind. Aside from these exceptions, the Dominant can do whatever he pleases. Touching any part of the body in a way he sees fit, for example:

  • pinches - with your fingers or devices;

  • clamps - by hand or with clothespins;

  • flogging, spanking - whipping, flogger, palm

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It is important to understand that the responsibility to take control begins immediately at the start of the session. The dominant can cause both pain and pleasure at its sole discretion, affecting any part of the body, including the rectal area, genitals, nipples. He can restrict the movement of the submissive, for example, by tying him with a rope or handcuffing. The duty of the Saba is to allow one to govern itself - to lead, to direct. The owner is not obliged to explain his actions and motives - this is his right. The better the saba adapts to the Master (without prejudice to health), the more harmonious the relationship in the pair.

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Delivering pleasure

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This part of the responsibilities is the most enjoyable. This can be the satisfaction of the Master's vital needs (food, drink), or those that are not, but allow to increase the feeling of comfort. This includes oral sex, massage, movie watching, or beauty treatments. It is these pleasures that are most often found in the characteristic Dominant-submissive relationship. Loving subs, adjusting to desires, even improve their skills as a servant in order to be more attractive to the Master, to satisfy Him as qualitatively as possible.

Saba should not bother to understand the Master's motives: he does only what brings him pleasure. The saba's duty is to take it for granted. If the unconditional acceptance of the Master's decisions goes against your character - perhaps you are not a submissive by nature, or a specific Master is not your option.

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It is important to remember to balance the enjoyment. The session should be structured so that both parties get their share. Submissives often receive more incentives when they become targets. The dominant must focus on his own satisfaction, build the game in such a way as to get everything that is required from the sub.

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Aspiring Dominants miss the moment by focusing on stimulating the sub. Saba gets physical, psychological relaxation, and the Dominant gets only emotional. As a result, the Dominant Member may feel betrayed by expectations.

When scheduling a session, the Dominant must decide what to demand from the submissive in order to maximize his satisfaction.

 

The presented list of duties of the saba is basic for building harmonious Ds-relations. It is designed to streamline the relationship and is aimed at mutual satisfaction of both partners.

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